“Every well built house”, says S.N. Bremer, “started in the form of a definite purpose plus a definite plan in the nature of a set of blueprints”. Quoting from a writer he adds, “imagine what would happen if one tried to build a house by the haphazard method, without plans. Workmen would be in each others way, building materials would be pile all over the lot before the foundation was completed, and everybody on the job would have a different notion as to how the house ought to be built”.
The importance of counting cost of planning before adventuring is thought by our Lord in Luke 14:25-32. Here Jesus teaches that whoever desires to follow Him and be His disciple should first decide whether he or she is prepared to pay the cost. This is a very wise instruction that should apply to every aspect of one’s endeavour including wedding. Perhaps the following questions will help you plan for your wedding.
How many people are you expecting in the wedding? Is attendance going to be straightly by invitation or open to whoever wills? This is a key question. It will determine how much you will make available for your wedding entertainment.
Some young people have ignorantly invited 1000 persons, to their wedding but made provision for not half of that number. This type of attitude usually bring embarrassment not only the couple but to the invitees. Perhaps this was the case in Cana of Galilee (John2:1-11). The couple must have invited many quests than they prepared or planned for them. Among the Jews a marriage feast sometimes lasts for a week. It will therefore be shameful for wedding entertainment to finish in the middle of the week.
How about the wedding invitation? How many copies you will print also depend on the number of persons you intend to invite to the wedding. Conserve fund. Do not print 1000 copies when you need one five hundred. The same goes to programmes. I have attended a wedding where service and reception programmes were printed 10 times more than those who attended. This is a big waste. You need this money for other things.
Your invitation should be sent out very early. One month before the wedding day should be okay. Do not forget to put your contact address in the card for regrets and other responses. Many precious wedding gifts are lost in transit because some young people do not take this into consideration.
Of what significant is your wedding cake? Cake is a mixture of flour, eggs, milk, sugar etc baked as in a loaf and often covered with icing. However, wedding cakes are not just ordinary cakes. The way a cake is patterned speaks volume. I have often heard intending ladies discussed on the patter of their wedding cakes.
A good caterer will always advise you on cake pattern and the various colours you need for its decoration depending on your desire.
How about the wedding gown? This is where many young people often make mistake. I have had to cover my face in some wedding because of indecent dressing. The wedding gown should be made to represent the righteousness of the saints. Isaiah t1:10 says “I will greatly rejoice in the Lord, my soul shall be joyful in my God; for he hath clothed me with the garments of salvation, he hath covered me with the robe of righteousness, as bridegroom decketh himself with ornaments, and as a bride adorned herself with her jewels”.
What we put on in the wedding day may not be very costly but should be a reflection of our relationship with God. It should reflect the glory of god in us. For a bride to come to the altar with most sensitive parts of her body exposed will not project her relationship with Christ. Do not forget that men look in the outward appearance, though God looks inwardly. Therefore your finger nails etc must be properly taken care of before you match to the altar. Your dressing often reveals your personality, taste and class. As a writer simply puts it, “if a man is well dressed, he is well regarded. And if he is badly dressed he stand out like a sole thumb”.
As the king and the queen of your wedding day do not appear unkempt before your quest. Dress very moderately but neat and tidy. Your “ladies in waiting” will always be in good position to advise you if they are Christians. Remember that it does not cost much amount of money to dress neatly in the wedding. God will help us in this area for us to have a successful wedding.
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